Updated: May 29, 2020
“Today you are you! That is truer than true!
There is no one alive who is you-er than you!
Shout loud, I am lucky to be what I am!
Thank Goodness im not just a cham or a ham
Or a dusty old jar of sour gooseberry jam
I am what I am! That’s a great thing to be!”
The grass is greener, taller and full of spring blossom - the hint of sweet fragrance, glorious wind and chirping birds. Isn’t Mother Earth just wonderful?
We’ll tell you what else is even more glorious – YOU!
YOU ARE TRULY MAGICAL!
We’ve all heard benefits of radical self-love, and there are times when we feel like we need to give ourselves more credit for going through every passing day.
The raging question here is, how? How can you learn to love yourself a little bit more every day? How do you nurture that deep, loving relationship with yourself to set upon your fulfilling path toward self-love?
No, self-love isn’t only about pampering yourself with sauna days filled with hot-oil body massages and turmeric masks. It’s also not about being arrogant or self-absorbed.
It goes A LOT deeper.
It’s about understanding what happiness is for you, what makes you feel more in tune with your truest self and what limits you from living a life that shines as bright as that brightest star in the sky.
Yes, yes and Yes!
Self-love is the powerful force within that can empower you!
So, do yourself a favor – give yourself the tightest hug and start practicing the following because remember - no one but you can give yourself exactly the life that you want!
1) Silence that inner critic, accept all your flaws and make positivity your new habit!
“They never raised a statue to a critic.” - Legendary dancer and choreographer, Martha Graham
They really never did. By being constantly critical of yourself, you feed your thoughts on negativity instead of embracing and loving the things that make you truly different – everything that makes you oh-so-special!
Accepting yourself with the good, the bad and the ugly – appreciate yourself as a whole people with a little bit of this and a bit more of that!
Try replacing the negatives with the positives and watch the magic that happens as the universe re-works your entire life with positive, subtle shifts!
2) Be grateful and slowly let go of things that do not serve you!
"Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some." - renowned literary figure, Charles Dickens
Appreciate everything that you have, instead of what you lack.
Let go of people that have hurt you, a past that still infuriates you and bring peace into your life today!
Start counting your blessings. Journal a gratitude list of the absences for which you are grateful –
Absence of physical pain
The absence some certain contagious people in your life
Perhaps the absence of feelings of loss for relationships and things long gone
Or the absence of the very strong feelings of resentment that you had for people that had wronged you.
Trust us when we say this - this list of gratitude possibilities can just go on and on and on!
3) Tap into what it looks and feels like to be loved.
“Love, connection, and acceptance are your birthright.” - Professor of Human Development at the University of Texas at Austin, Kristen Neff
Practicing self-love and self-care can seem like an excessive extravagance in the midst of our demanding jobs and challenging routines. I mean, there are days when our houses are a mess, our kids need help with their homework, files upon files of piled up work and there’s still two weeks’ worth of laundry waiting for us in the basement!
Yes, it isn’t easy to be loving towards ourselves when things aren’t going exactly as we had planned, it’s all falling apart and we’re struggling. But that is when we need to be the kindest to ourselves!
Visualize the most loving person on this planet towards you - love yourself a whole lot more than that angel – offer compassion and acceptance.
4) Make room for healthy habits.
“We first make our habits and then our habits make us.” - England's first Poet Laureate in 1668, John Dryden
All hail for our most important point! Most of us are conditioned with unhealthy habits and we end up struggling in the mind. It’s important to start with letting it all out.
Start journaling. Before you head off to bed every night, note down five things you loved about the day, and five things you didn’t but couldn’t change.
Other habits can include everything that’s good for you – your food, exercise, cleaning, going for a light walk – anything that helps in adding to your lifestyle, not just mentally but also emotionally!
“Your body exists in the past and your mind exists in the future. In yoga, they come together in the future.” - One of the foremost yoga teachers in the world, B. K. S. Iyengar
Do some Yoga. Join that one class in your neighborhood fitness center that you’ve been meaning to for so long! Go for some exciting Dance Meditation classes!
6) Our absolute favorite is Meditation!
“The thing about Meditation is – you become more and more you.” - American filmmaker, artist, musician, and actor, David Lynch
Meditation practice begins with being kinder to yourself, with accepting your irregularities and truly understanding how to micro-manage all the thoughts in your head.
There can be one or more than one meditation technique that speaks to you. Regardless, a couple of minutes of mindfulness in the morning can cultivate feelings of calm, empathy, mindfulness into the rest of your day!
Stretch and release all the unnecessary negativities, calm the mind, deepen self-awareness and cultivate inner strength, flow and a deeper connection with life. Get your mind moving and you’ll be surprised at what happens – days and days of pulsing creativity, peace and bliss!
7) Love yourself more…
“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” - Canadian poet, illustrator, and author
Get inspired by yourself! Because let’s face it: it’s easy to love what everyone loves about you too. But what about all those not-so-lovable traits?
Get this – you don’t need to love everything to develop self-love. All you need is some and lots of acceptance.
Cheers to a lifetime of better habits, clean eating and most of all, LOVING YOURSELF!